What kind of life do you want to live? What do you want your future to look like, tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, ten years from now? How can your life change and what is needed to make that change? What if you could change your life and make it what you want, what you deserve?

Before you go any further here is a quick insight into me, what I do, and why!

My name is Nick and I specialize in personal growth, with a focus on career and business coaching, and fitting those two elements into your personal life! For over 20 years I have climbed the ladder, achieved great success, reaped the rewards and learned the secretes to succeeding in any career. I have mastered the interview process, mastered the skills to succeed, and have mentored and coached many people in their careers and personal life. I decided to do more and became a life coach, and became a certified life coach and got certified in time management in 2017. With this under my belt, I decided to start my site where I could reach almost anyone in the world with the intent of helping people achieve mastery in their careers, businesses, and life. You can learn more about me and some of the training in business I have here.

It is possible for you to live the life you want, I guarantee it, and with the right tools you can achieve success in everything you do. Changing your life is a process, it can be difficult, but it is always worth it! The journey will be full of ups and downs, and along the way you will learn amazing things about life and yourself.

Take a few minutes and think about all the areas of your life that could change? Your relationships, your career, your money, your faith, your friends, you!

Is there anywhere you need change and growth in your life?

If you want to learn more, keep reading! I am going to give you some information into how to change your life, into how to grow, and achieve success in everything you do!

Success is achievable… Just follow the path!

First you need to ask yourself a couple of questions and be honest with your answers.

1. What do you want? What do you really want in your life, in your career, in your faith, with your family, with your friends, with your finances?
2. Where are you headed? What direction are you going? Are you heading to where you want to go?
3. Where are you now? Where do you stand in your life right now?
4. What are you willing to do to get to where you want to go? Are you willing to make the change? Are you willing to put in the work? Will you achieve it come hell or high water, no matter the consequences?

Now let’s talk about the things that you can do to change your life… After all that is why you are here right?

Assess where you are now

You need to know where you are now to know where you are going! When you do not know where you are right now, how will you know how to get to where you want to go? This may seem obvious, but most people do not take the time to look at where they are now, and if you don’t know where you are now how can you begin to figure out how to get to where you want to go?

When you look at where you are now it will help you to set goals that will keep you on track and help you achieve your desired outcome.

Think of it this way… when you jump in your car to go for a drive you already know the destination, but if you don’t know where your starting from how will you know what direction to head in???

This can be hard, but you need to take the time and write out where you are! Put it on paper so you have it to remind yourself of where you are and late on how far you have gone!

Determine where you want to go

Take the time to look at where you want to go! It does not matter where, it can be in your personal life, at work, in a relationship, a promotion, starting your own business… Whatever it is you need to know where you are going!

You need to set where you want to go to be somewhere you want to be, somewhere that catches your heart, and your soul!

If you do not know where you are going how will you get to the destination?

Think again of being in your car… If you know where you are but do not know where you want to go, then who knows where you might end up!

Too many people do now know where they want to go. The result is they drift around in life, and sadly get halfway through their life before they realize they have not fulfilled their purpose. They have had no direction and have ended up somewhere they may not have ever thought they would!

Do it now… Do not waste any more time without knowing where you want to go!!!

Determine your why

This may be one of the biggest missed points for people. When you look for change, lasting change it requires growth, sacrifice, pain, struggle. Willpower alone will hardly be enough for anyone to continue to push forward when the times get tough. You need something more, if you try to go on willpower alone eventually you will most likely fail.

If you are like most people you have probably been on a diet before, and like most people maybe it worked, a least for a little while. Then like most people you fell off a bit and gained it all back. I certainly have, lost and gained, in an endless cycle only to find myself in the same place. 

That is because the why is not strong enough for us to continue to push when the road gets though, and it is going to get tough!

The people who succeed usually have a strong why! Take the people who lose weight and keep it off. A lot of times there is an unfortunate medical diagnosis, or they have a child or loved one they don’t want to leave behind.

They have a strong why behind their goals and aspirations!

Your why should create strong feelings or emotions for you. Something that charges your soul, a burning desire, and creates and obsession for you!

It is necessary for your why to create strong emotions/feelings as just having a goal or desire is not enough to obtain success! This will give you the strength necessary to push harder, faster, and longer, even when the path is not clear, or you think it is not possible.

Set goals

Set goals so they are extremely high but achievable. Taking the time to set goals give you the ability to map out where you are going and what you want to do. It gives you the chance to set milestones to check on your progress.

First an extremely big goal, something that you have no idea how to get there, that is so lofty that you can hardly imagine you achieving it. Then set smaller goals that will help you along the path to achieving the massive goal.

All goals should be something that you do not already know how do. If you set goals to do things you already know how to do then you will limit your growth! It is all about personal growth. Now, I will say you can set a goal that is something you already know how to do provided it creates exponential growth. Like going from making 100,000 a year to 1,000,000.

Make sure your goals light a fire in your belly and a linked with a strong positive emotion as this will help you set lofty goals and ensure you have the drive to achieve them!

Remember you do not have to know how to achieve the goal, you only have to set it so that you can have a path or direction.

This is linked to number 2 above, where you are going!

Master time

What does it matter if you master time?

Most people waste an enormous amount of time and do not even realize it! If you want to achieve your goals and achieve success in everything you do it is important to use your time wisely!

We are all given the same 24 hours! It is about how you spend your time that counts! Do you spend your time be productive or doing things that do not serve your purpose and goals? We all have time, weather it be a few minutes in the morning or right before bed, or a lunch time!

Take a few minutes and look at what you do with your free time! Do you want TV, do you spend it endlessly scrolling through social media? If you do then you need to ask yourself if that is helping you to achieve what you want!

Write down your day in 30 minute blocks, be honest, and then you will see where you can spend time doing the things that will serve you in your journey to achieve success in everything you do!

Some examples of what you can do to spend time wisely are work on your business, read a book that is related to your goals and dreams, get an audio book while driving to work… There are lots of things you can do to master time!

Have faith

What is faith and what does it have to do with anything?

When I talk about faith here, I am talking about understanding that you may not have all the answers, you may not have any idea of how to get to where you want to go. You only need to know where you are going, the rest will be taken care of if you trust the process and put in the work and effort.

A captain of the ship cannot see the port they are headed to but sure enough they know that they will get there if they follow the right path!

You don’t have to know everything, all you have to do, is to have a strong why and set goals to get the end point, and then trust that if you put in the work and effort that you will achieve success!

The journey is tough, and filled with obstacles, problems, and failures, some of them will seem like they are insurmountable but if you keep faith in the process and in the destination, you will get there!  

Celebrate the success

Celebrating your wins is a good thing! And I am not talking about going out and buying something you do not need or have no business buying. Celebrating your success can be as simple as taking a few minutes to stop everything you do and showing gratitude for what has happened!

When you celebrate your success, it helps build confidence and reinforces the positive behavior. It can help be a driving force behind going after the next goal. At some point you will struggle with your endeavors, and celebrating success helps you to reinforce that there is good to come.

A small, reasonable reward can keep you focused on the game.

If you have ever heard of Ikigai (Japanese philosophy) you would know that it is not uncommon for them to have a reward first thing in the morning, such as a small piece of chocolate. This small reward helps to reinforce getting up early. It helps the mind create dopamine; a chemical linked to creating a positive mood. This becomes a positive habit linked to getting up early.

It is celebrating the success of winning the morning and so long as you are reasonable with the rewards it may serve you.

Change yourself

To change your life and achieve success you need to look inside. One of the hardest things to do is look at yourself, look inside and realize that the only thing that you can change is you.

Do not look for things outside of yourself for success or failure. If you always look elsewhere you will never make the change necessary inside of you to achieve lasting success.

You will find that as you change your life will change as well, you will become someone new.

The challenges that once were hard will not be hard anymore. There will be new challenges but if you always look inside you will realize that you can always adapt and overcome.

Find your confidence

Self confidence is one of the most important things you can have! Have you ever noticed how success people tend to carry themselves a little different? That they seem to never lose! That they exude confidence!

When we think of confidence, we tend to think of someone that is cocky, maybe a little rude, and possibly even full of themselves. But do you know what the definition of confidence is?

Here are a couple of definitions for confidence: Full trust; belief in the powers, trustworthiness, or reliability of a person or thing; belief in oneself and one’s powers or abilities; self-confidence, self-reliance, assurance.

When you look at the definitions above it should be quite clear why you need to develop your self-confidence!

Having confidence will change how you react to everything in your life, the good and the bad. It will change how you interact with other people. It will change how you see and react to the difficulties you will face in life! It will change how you carry yourself, and how other people see you.

Confidence is usually obvious in sales jobs or with candidates that are interviewing. When you are confident you posture and language changes, you are leading and not following, and people tend to trust those that demonstrate they are strong leaders!

Increasing your confidence will change your life in ways you cannot imagine if you are not already confident!

Be humble

Now you might be saying, hold on… you just said to be confident but now you are saying to be humble!!!

Yes, humility will help you to achieve success in all you do. Here is some of the definitions for humble: Modest, subservient, courteously respectful.

To be humble is to realize that for you to achieve greatness, serving others and having respect for others is important. It is important for your emotional well-being, and it is important for you to be able to learn and grow!

You can be noticeably confident in yourself and abilities, but if you are humble you will recognize that there is always something you can learn and often it is from someone else.

It is putting your ego and pride aside and recognizing that everything is not about you, not about your desires and wants. It will also help you to not seek outside validation for who you are and will allow you to find your worth where you should… right inside of you!

Take time to self-reflect

Do you take time to look at your life, to evaluate where you are, where you want to go, what you want to do, what is important to you? Do you objectively look at who you are and who you want to become, or do you just go through the motion’s day after day, week after week, year after year?

Sometimes we do not want to do self-reflection because we fear how we might see ourselves! And it can be hard to recognize or accept who we are and what we are doing.

When you take the time to self-reflect and look at who you are, where you are, where you are going, what is important to you, and what you want to do, it will help you to be more clear on who you want to become and where you want to go. It will help you to set better, clearer, and more focused goals as well.

Self-reflection is about going inside yourself, and the if you want to have success in everything you do you need to grow and change. The only way to grow and change is to know what is inside and to constantly look inside to see if you are becoming who you want to be!

Conquer your fears

Our fears stop us before we even start! They keep us from doing the things we should be doing!

Think about what you are afraid of! Most of us have fears, whatever they may be. A fear of heights, of fear of winning, or losing, a fear of public speaking… Whatever it is we all have fears.

You must work towards and eventually conquer your fears, or they will rule you and you will not grow. Being fearful makes you set goals that do not serve you, it makes you never start the project, it makes you hide from what you want to do!

I think most of us can relate to the fear of public speaking at one point or another in our lives. Did this stop you from getting the grade you wanted because you could not give the presentation or gave it halfway! Did it stop you from becoming the manager because you can not talk to people!

Have you ever made excuse after excuse for not going to a job interview or even being offered a good job but not taking it! Think about it… it was fear that kept you from going!

Working towards your fears creates growth and eventually your fear will become normal and it will no longer be a fear!

Build on your strengths

You already have things that you are good at! We all do. If you are extremely good at something, then you must work to get better at it and use it to your advantage!

A lot of times we do not focus on what strengths we already have, after all a strength is just that, so why work on it!

Using what you are good at or your strengths will help you to achieve success quicker. It takes time to develop new strengths, and even more time to put them to good use.

Always take the time, evaluate what you are good at, your strengths, and then use them to your advantage. Put them to work for you and you will reap the rewards of them now!

Put in the work

There is no substitute for putting in the work! The over achievers put in an obnoxious amount of work, more than the person next to them and because of the effort they put in, the work they put in they tend to reap better rewards.

This is demonstrated everywhere in life, you put in more effort at work you get raise, you work harder to make your business better you make more money, your put more work into your personal relationships you have better relationships. It is always the case, weather it is in money, family, friends, or your growth.

The more work your put in the better off you will be. You need to work harder to learn more and sustain greater success in your life!

Look at the areas of your life you want to be better and then go and put in the work needed to get to where you want to go!

You want more money, put in the work to get it… you want a better relationship, put in the work to make it better… you want to job, put in the work to get it…

It really is that simple…

Move past failure

Failure happens, it happens to everyone. I guarantee you if you asked someone that you admire or someone who has achieved great success about failure, they will be able to tell you about their failures. They could outnumber your failures 10 to 1. Their failures have probably been a lot worse too!

See… it takes failure to get to success… it takes failure to grow…

It is not that we want to fail, no one wants to fail, but understanding that in failure there is valuable lessons to be learned that cannot be learned sometimes by success.

Every time you fail you need to stop and evaluate it. Look at why you failed, how did you fail, what did you not know or understand? The greats know how to use their failures to achieve success. They learn from the process, they grow from the failure, and eventually they overcome their failures.

Accepting failure and learning from it are essential to your growth and to achieve success in everything you do!

Invest in yourself

Take some time and invest in yourself! Set aside time each day to learn something new, to grow, and to take care of your well-being.

Put some money aside to take classes or courses, to buy books or programs that can teach you new things in the areas you want to develop.

This is lie buying a car. You do not go buy a car and then not invest in the maintenance of that car! What would happen if you did not invest into the maintenance of the car? It would fail right!!!

This is the same, invest in your growth, take the time every day to invest in yourself, set aside the money to invest in yourself, grow, learn, and take care of yourself! If you want your body to perform its best invest in yourself by eating things that are good for you. You will feel better and your body will work better!

Invest in your future, through reading and classes that will benefit you! Everyone who has achieved great success in their lives have invested heavily into themselves.

This creates growth, change, and you will gain new knowledge to use towards your success.

Find the little things in life that give you joy, and you are grateful for

Finding the little things that give you joy is broad, and it will vary from person to person!

When you can find the little things in life that bring you joy you will find that you will be happier overall. You will find that in difficult times, that it will not be hard to find the good and see the things in life that are positive!

When you have joy and gratitude your attitude will be better. You will find that things that once bothered you no longer bother you. You will find the beauty in life, and the beauty is everywhere! It is in the gentle breeze, the smell of the flowers on a walk, the sound of a bird.

Joy is everywhere, and when you can find joy and be grateful for the little things the big things get smaller and easier to deal with. 

There is only one time… RIGHT NOW

I will leave you with this… There is only right now!!!

Now is the time to live your life…

Now is the time to make a change…

Now is the time to put in the work…

Now is the time to experience joy…

Now is the time to be grateful…

Now is the time to live the life you deserve and have success in all that you do!!!

Putting it all together…

What good is all the information above if you do not do anything with it? NOW is the time to decide, the time to make a choice.

You need to choose to become a different person, you need to be willing to change. You need to accept that it will be difficult, and your subconscious mind will fight to keep you the same. You must choose to change your habits, remove the excuses, remove the obstacles, and commit to the process!

Progress is the key, not perfection! Achieving a goal or desire is great but it the path the progress that is made that creates fulfillment and helps you to achieve lasting results and the desired life you want!

Ask yourself “Am I willing?” if the answer is no, then you need to review your why? Your why is not strong enough. Once you say “yes, I am willing” then you are why is strong enough and you can move in the right direction!

Now that you know how to create success and what you can do to win at life, I will encourage you to take some time and check out all different areas on this site. I have articles and videos that dive deeper into all areas of your life, some great books you can check out, some programs to help you succeed, and I even offer personalized coaching!

I want to be where you turn when you need some help or guidance! I want to help you achieve your dreams, goals, and aspirations!

Now, think of all the things in your life that could be different. Then ask yourself “what if I had a place to go that could help me, give me guidance, give me support, and help me to live the life I want?”

“What if I had someone in my corner all the time that could make real, long lasting change possible, so I could live the life I deserve?”

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Best wishes, and here is to you living a fulfilling, rewarding, prosperous life, full of love, wealth, and success in all you do!

Nicholas Hess